How do you manage a Healing Crisis? What is a Healing Crisis? As practitioners we generally have a range of resources to help in looking after ourself, but what of those others who we give or share healing? Should they not always feel better? Well, if they did always feel better wouldn’t that be the end of all illness, unwellness and dis-ease? Sometimes they feel better, sometimes worse, sometimes the same. And of course there are degrees of better, from ‘a little better thank you,’ to ‘I’m cured!’ And worse, from a little bit worse, to…let’s not go there.
What do you do? What do you think? How do you react? I have read books and articles on self-responsibility – hey, let’s blame the patient! They love their disease, it’s keeping them happy. I was at a seminar recently where the facilitator held that if someone is bullying you, you chose it. You sought out the someone. Had facilitator acknowledged the Freudian wisdom ‘Before diagnosing yourself with low self-esteem or depression, just make sure you’re not surrounded by assholes,’ his response might have been a little more compassionate. Or was he himself a member of that noted club?
And there again, do you blame yourself? I’m a sh1t healer, useless, shouldn’t even have got out of the tub today. Me at my best. Total frack-up.
Blame the system? It’s all Castor & Pollux, new-agey, arty-farty (in the words of milord Sugar), happy-hippy quackery. What then would you make of the statistic that with a ‘cure’ rate of 44% complementary therapy is as effective as western? Don’t ask me to define complementary therapy: until the repeal of the Witchcraft Act (in 1951) we could all have been locked up for communing with spirit: the last one to suffer that fate was Helen Duncan in 1944! btw it never has been repealed in Northern Ireland, so watch out, there!
We could blame God, that’s popular. I used to credit the ‘Fist of God’ with everything that went wrong in my life, from broken relationships to broken boilers: variations of ‘Why Me’ and ‘Poor Me.’
None of this helps, does it? So, back to managing. We have no idea what’s going on in anyone else’s karmic energy field, and we must not take responsibility for it. A subject in a Healing Circle will take from that what they need from that – whichever way it goes! A healing crisis can happen for any reason and none.
Generally speaking, it’s not a good idea to detoxify in one session more than the body can eliminate: the healing crisis can be too severe. And the Japanese Shiatsu Healer Wataru Ohashi says a healing crisis is often the result of the therapist’s eagerness (ego-ness?) to get a result!
What can we do? We can reassure the patient if it’s mild. We can make recommendations if appropriate.
What must we do? We must recommend they see a health professional if its bad.
What should we do? We should ask ourself firstly if we had a clear mandate from the patient to offer them healing, of whatever kind. This is of the essence. We all know how keen we can be to help others, in the way we think they need help. When I was a Shiatsu practitioner I would have calls from a partner or secretary to book an appointment for some one else. No. It must be the patient. Nowadays I have NLP clients who say they have come to quit smoking. I ask why: half the cases say it is because their partner / family / friends want them to. Doesn’t work. Motivation is essential.
Going to that deep place within ourself, guard against the risk of karmic interference by acknowledging, from a deep well of loving-kindness, that the right outcome happens…without attachment to cure, success or failure, pride or guilt. Whisper words of wisdom: Let It Be. ‘Everything’s all right in the end, and if it’s not, it’s not yet the end.’ (Best Marigold Hotel)
Sometimes the Soul wants to go. Who am I, to say No?